The distillation of a day of writing

Yes, by leaving the growing flower in the dirt where you first admired it means you can't have it to yourself. It means you are NEVER, EVER going to be sure that the flower will still be there tomorrow. And showing up to look for the flower every morning, and sitting next to it and watching and supporting its growth... THAT is love. Resisting the urge to have, own and keep another mind body close to our own means we are vulnerable to loneliness. Abandonment. Rejection. But it also means we stand a chance of actually loving and being loved. Love happens within the tension and despite the fear. Love gives freely and with abandon because it hasn't arranged for the other person to be next to them in all their tomorrows.